Is it hard to have a long distance relationship? why?

Is it hard to have a long distance relationship? why?

What makes it easy? What makes it hard?

Love and communication of the love make it easy. Thinking it will not have obsticles in the way of keeping love and communication vital will make it hard. Always growing stronger or growing away. Choose to do the things that make it grow closer.

Have a plan to get together to count the days on, or have the goals to accomplish to be accomplished to be together.

IT SURE IS DIFFICULT.... BUT IF THE LOVE IS PURE IT CONQUERS ALL THE DIFFICULTIES

Hi everyone,

as for me, it is not hard to have a long distance relationship but what matter is honesty and commitment.

for me its not , as long as u loved each other, and it will help u to build a strong relationship, communication is the most important for that kind of relationship , coz i u can can prove to him how honest u r in ur relationship even if he far from u,

hi......well its both.....hard and easy.....Hard/difficult in the sense that you hve to exert effort in trying to communicate just to let the relationship work....and doing hard to prove to each other that ur both strong and sincere to each other.....Easy in the since that if u really love someone,,,distance is not a hindrance to let him feel that u really are in love to each other.....distance makes the heart grow fonder.....the willingness to sacrifice for the sake of ur love one is really promising.....But...cant u be near for me...BABE? lolzzzzzzzzzzz

Hi Luz, yeah you're right...hard and easy ...but sometimes it depends to a person too even you communicate regularly still there's always a tempt around us...and if that tempt was always around you and u don't have enough courage to fight for it, that would be the beginning of breaking the relationship...how i wish both should be strong enough to fight for any tempt that comes to us...thanks for your opinion...enjoy and have a safe and wonderful days ahead!!

I AGREE . I AM INVOLVED IN ONE RIGHT NOW ! I LOVE HER DEEPLY BUT IN TWO YEARS WE HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO GET TOGETHER FOR VARIOUS REASINS , IT HUFRTS BOTH OF US ! SHE IS SICK AND REALLY NEEDS ME THERE ! I WANT TO BE WITH HER , I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING ! BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND WILL NOT GIVE UP, BECAUDSE I KNOW HE IS THE ONE FOR ME !

Hi Marty, thanks for sharing your opinion...i'm so sorry to hear that, hope she get well soon:-) anyway, it's really hard and difficult to have a long distance relationship because if both needs each other badly like in your case, you can't just easily extend your hand or get closer to her.,there's always a way if we really want to....only God knows!!! have a safe and great day!!!

thats for sure.....because u have to build a strong relationship and trust to each other otherwise it wont last long and wont work out the way you wanted to be......lol

you're right marg, trust and respect w/ each other are the principal ways of hving a strong relationship but we really don't know if how long can both handle it...:-D

its really hard cause u never see them and sometimes never have any words from them. its really a hard feeling of desperation if u cannot see nor touch ur love one. hard to communicate specially when theyre so busy working, for me i like my love to be always in touch and always visible in my needs. LOVE conquers all. GOD be with all of u always.

yeah that's true emma... communication is one of the best way of being closer w/ each other...that's the only way we can express our feelings!!! Stay blessed :-)

it is hard to have long distance relationship cause u r both dont know what will come up next.

hi emma:-) thanks for sharing your opinion!!! that's really true but i guess it also depends to the person if he knows how to handle and keep their promises to their love ones...

now i know even its hard to have a long distance relationship well, its really amazing sorry but i just tried ok a nice man could be a good relationship like what uve said before it depends on a man with principles and understanding. well im happy that i open my eyes on long distance relatioship. well i agree now that theres no problem on having long distance relationship but telling u the trith it didnt work good but im still hoping for one soulmate that i will meet soon . thanks and GOD bless.

I think the number one problem in long distance relationship is the temptations and also influences around him/her, his /her co-worker...the love, trust and promises slowly wane...theres a saying that is already obsolete " absence make the heart ponder" - but its already absence makes the heart wander.

really theres always a risk in this kind of relationship...

i agree w/ u lelet:-)coz even u trust and love each other still the tempt is always there and if you're weak enough to fight for it, broken promises will come in...that's why most couple nowadays were separated because of this kind of relationship...

My understanding is "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is the saying. But I woud need a context for the saying to understand it.

Another saying is "...in for a penny in for a pound". In USA we have pennys as money and pounds is a measure of weight. As a child hearing a few times it did not make sense. I now weigh 245 pounds and I do not know how many pennys I have. :) But as a child hearing the saying, to me they did seem different measures. But if you live in England where they have money for both Penny and Pound it would make sense to the child hearing it for the first time.
(If I was going to say it for USA chile I mught say it "...in for a penny in for a dollar.")

O.K. "I just wanted to put my 2 cents in." :)

~ James

Well based in my experience it is hard at first but in the long run it is not that hard anymore. It is hard because you can't get to see your partner that much anymore and you have you many speculation about him/her but you must learn to trust your partner because it is the only key that your relationship will last long. Don't forget to communicate because this is also essential.

thanks bevs for sharing your experience:-) trust and keeping in touch w/ each other are really needed in this kind of relationship...

Yes, it is really very vital. I also remind my partner that "i will not do a thing that i know he will not do". Also, always make an effort that you make your part secure of your feelings towards him/her. If there are temptation, which I know that there are lots of it, just pray and think of your partners feelings or put your shoes into your partners shoes so that you will know.

i had my share of long distance relationship... he was to head a newly opened branch here in the Phils. as manager...he was given a tagalog tutor in his country and to find out later that he bedded her. problems arise and he was not able to come. i was cried and was very disappointed with him and let go of him...in two weeks time, he was back, kneeling in front of his computer asking forgiveness and it was lust he needed from his tutor... he wants me back bcoz its me he loves and becoz i love him, i accepted him back... now he is waiting for his term to be assigned here in the phils....he does communicate with me but i dont trust hm anymore with our distance... during our work sked he calls and our evenings we chat in pc....love and respect is present but trust it just have to be earned not easily given after all what happened ... yes its the past but bound to happen again if not guarded thats why he made his presence felt all the time.... for me il just cross my fingers if its us or not though too much investment of emotions is given away already...

It is so difficult to have a long distance relationship because being physically present has a great impact in making a relationship work. Long distance can result into many temptations in these times. Unless in some cases if the foundation of the relationship is strong, then the relationship can stand trials and challenges.......I still believe that a relationship will work if both are together....

hi carl, that's really true!!! it's really hard to be apart from your love ones especially if it takes for a years...

Actually, i don't have any experience with a long distance relationship but with my friends they usually don't last long especially when their loved ones are based abroad. I really believe that especially if your married wherever your husband or wife is that's where you should be also......A lot of marriages fail because of this factor....

Good for you Carl coz u haven't experienced it yet. Well count me as one of them who experienced it!!! Me and my hub been married since 1992 and we've been living happily together when he's still w/ me here in the Phils. He left for Germany in year 2000 then went to Italy, we do communicate everyday coz we do missed each other very much & it lasts for 5 years, after that he doesn't answer my phone calls anymore and he stopped communicating w/ me...then all of a sudden he told me that he won't be back to the Phils. anymore and admitted that he has his g/f there, we finally decided to separate our ways that was at the middle of 2005...tho' it hurts, have to accept it & have to move on..it's really hard to be apart from your hubby nor wife even u trust and love each other...temptation is always around!!!

Oh, that is sad to hear......You have to accept it and that's right move on because life is worth living...He is not worth it..........I hope that you would find happiness in a person who would really be faithful...

Thanks for the nice message Carl....hopefully i could, just waiting for the right guy who's really meant for me...who knows? i could meet him here hehehehehe

yeah! couples should trust each other in order to make the relationship work. prayer is the best weapon too.

yes....its very hard to have a longdistance relationship cz u dont know wht is real feeling ti guys and its hard also cz w dont have a right communication.....and u have somany doubts........

i definately agree but...long distance relationship has a advantages and disadvantages to consider....
advantage...coz..both of you can stay away from temptation,...but long distance relationship is not a hendrance if you're really inlove w/ each other..

You are walking down the road hand in hand with the one you love after exploring a shopping fair that many neighborhoods celebrate together, many small signs of love have passed between you and the one you love, many things impossible to fully explain were seen and shared in a moment of time. Hours or see one another in the same place at the same time confirm over and over again what you and your loved one and the two of you together are like.
This as well as making love and having children are missed each day you are apart.

Temptation is always with us. Just in different forms. Temptation is giving us a choice and our choice determines our cheracter. And often times give us a chance to live by the grace of God's forgiveness. And a chance to grow from exercising right decisions and recognizing bad ones.

If you love then come together. This is love - drawing closer. If you could love for a year and had to lose the person you loved to an accident, you find more treasure in being together than missing shared experiences. Long distance is a hinderence to sharing love. God is with you in the same room as you, everywhere you are. If you live this then you will open yourself to sharing a sunset with him, as well as ask for where you put your keys when you must leave soon. :) But if God was at a distance only, in a throne in heaven where he could not see you, the intamacy would be lost. And love and intimacy are to glory in. If you had a long distance love you delayed seeing and he died after a year of knowing you to accident, you missed the intimacy of being together. You can never get back what you missed by being apart. Each day you lost something that you could have had if together. And love can endure the hurt that comes each day while you are apart. Love can endure pain and distance in love is endured while it is closeness that is the joy in love.